The Best Revenge

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I've made a multitude of concessions trying to keep the peace, duck the fire and make my marriage work. When divorce began it's scythe-like swing, the burn of anger felt like a ton of bricks on my chest and had me also tasting blood. In wisdom and understanding a friend said, "The best revenge you can have is to go and live your life well."

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